When she got married she was a size 2. After their daughter was born she was a size 14. Two years later instead of losing weight she was a size 18. Instead of hitting the gym or losing the “baby fat” she hit post partum depression and threw in the towels resolving to the fact that she was just big and “he better loves me for who I am on the inside rather than the outside.” He did love her for the person she was, but his looks on her enormously large size 18 body and 40-DD chest and a g-string that turned into booty-floss that got buried under all those “loafs of bread” did not make her feel the sexiest or most attractive woman in the world. But she didn’t care anymore

Perhaps you can relate?

What is a woman to do when she feels trapped in a body that is no fun, in addition to dealing with a depression that you can’t seem to explain since giving birth to a child should be one of the most exiting undertakings of anyone’s life? Even the shoes on your rack consist mainly of slip-ons, because you’ve grown tired of getting out of breath when tying your shoes.

By this time the excuses of caring for a small child keep you away from the gym, for good seeming reason. So you resort to diets and starving yourself – the weight has to come off somehow, even though we know that 95% of all diets fail. So we fall deeper and deeper into the hole of depression and the mountain of excuses soon seems to swallow us alive.

Should you leave this dead marriage? What if you did?

And yet, life goes on – with or without you!

Here are 5 things that can help you get off to a great start to regain your health and re-ignite a new spark into your partnership:

1. Stop all excuses. Instead of focusing on all the excuses that prevent you from losing weight, start focusing on all the good things that come to you from having a sexy figure. Trust that since you have had a slim figure in the past, you will get there again in the near future. No one is asking you to lose all the weight by next week, just get started and stay consistent.

2. Know that this is not about him, this is all about you. You are in this together, yes, but losing the weight for him is superficial and will only make your weight loss temporary. You must want to lose the weight for you and you only. You are the one feeling unhealthy or unattractive and you want to feel great about yourself. Having your partner be attracted to you once again is an added bonus and benefit and can serve as a motivator, but it should not be the main reason.

3. Be gentle and agreeable with Nature. Putting your hands on your hips and refusing to lose weight because you want to “teach him a lesson” is just plain stupid. He loves you no matter what, provided he truly loves you for who you are at the core and not your looks, but the truth remains that we are ruled by Nature and men are stimulated visually, and they are just as much turned off by visuals. This is just the way Nature has designed men and women to be different, so rather than wanting to take on a fight with Nature and hurt yourself and your partner, be grateful for the certainty Mother Earth delivers each and every time. Accept these simple rules and work with Nature rather than against her and watch miracles enfold.

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I sat at a wedding recently and excitedly listened to my father-in-law who promised to give the secret to a long and happy marriage. More than 50 years of marital bliss had made him an expert on the subject and the perfect candidate for this speech. His advice was profound yet so simplistic that most every school could understand. His solution to problems was a simple and heartfelt, “I am sorry” to your partner whenever needed. With this advice he assured the crowd, you will have many years of happiness ahead of you.

These simple, short words can work wonders when it comes to an intimate relationship. Only moments before these words slip from your lips you may have been in hot water. Now that you have apologized the mood in the room is changed to a lighter, happier and more loving feeling to move forward with. Facial muscles are relaxed and your spouse will forgive you.

You might think this sounds easy but there is a lot of difference in how men and women view these two words. Women find apologizing easier than most men. Men find it hard to say and don’t always see how important it is.

This often causes more problems. When these words are not spoken than women assume that the feelings behind these words are not meant. Women they interpret this as her husband lacking remorse will men often see a woman’s need to hear these words as a lack of self-confidence. Men need to swallow their pride and say, “I’m sorry” occasionally. Women need to be able to understand that just because a man doesn’t say these words does not mean he’s not feeling them. Seeing things from both a male and female perspective can help to prevent problems in your marriage.

This marriage tip, as with most all tips, is one that does no good to understand if you do not implement it.

Practical tips on effectively apologizing for married couples:

If you mess up, take full responsibility. Don’t make your spouse a party to what happened. If you say, “sorry I spilt wine on the rug but don’t fill my glass so full next time”, this is a half-hearted apology along with a dig at your partner. “I’m sorry I spilt wine on the rug” is a better apology and should get immediate forgiveness (we all have little accidents!)

Apologize for how you made the other person feel as well as apologizing for what happened. “I’m sorry I came home so late. I know you must have been worried”, is a better way of saying sorry than, “I’m sorry I came home so late,” which makes it sound like you are only saying sorry because you are expected to.

Be specific in your apology. An overly generalized apology can sound like a political candidate making sure that they have covered all of their bases. If there is a reason for apologizing then it should be specified in the apology.

Use timing wisely. If you did something small (in the other person’s eyes, not yours) this isn’t so important. If you step on your spouse’s toe, an immediate, “oops – sorry” is fine because it’s not a big deal and things like that happen. If you need to apologize for something bigger, wait until there is quiet time and then apologize properly. Don’t do it when she is running out of the house to take the kids to school or interrupt her when she’s on the phone.

Explanations do not require you to hand out to blame. Marriage tips can be helpful but you should not expect them to work miracles. It is up to you and your spouse to work through your problems. You shouldn’t expect your spouse to instantaneously accept your apology either. Forgiveness may take awhile and in the meantime that you self and your partner shoes. Do not pass the blame to partner. An explanation does not require that someone is to blame.

Marriage tips can be helpful but you should not expect them to work miracles. It is up to you and your spouse to work through your problems. You shouldn’t expect your spouse to instantaneously accept your apology either. Forgiveness may take awhile and in the meantime that you self and your partner shoes.

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Daily routines dictate your schedule. Chores gobble up your time. It’s no wonder that your marriage may be less than romantic. You’ve forgotten about the times when you used to cuddle up together on the sofa just thinking about one another. You need to remember those times and re-live the love. It’s time for you two to go out on a date.

Sometimes when routine takes over romance, you need to indulge yourself for your own sake and for the sake of all those around you. Work and children and the daily drudgery are the common factors that wipe romance out of your life. It is time to remind each other how much you loved being together, how much fun you had, and how many romantic nights you spent walking in the park or strolling along the city streets hand in hand.

The best way to remember those days is to relive them. All you need to do is to work out the logistics and make your plans. Arrange for a baby-sitter if you have children. Make all other arrangements that can handle things in your absence. Do whatever it takes to rekindle the spark of romance in your marriage.

Now imagine, your husband reserves a room at your favorite hotel. He calls you from work and tells you to be ready at 8 o’clock on a Friday evening. You pack your bag and get set to go for the weekend. He comes in a rented convertible. He brings back all the memories of the time when he used to take you out on a date. The idea is to build the excitement. You check in at your favorite hotel and discover that you are going into the honeymoon suite. There is a bottle of wine on the table and the room is decorated with red roses. Your favorite music is playing in the background. Your weekend of love has begun.

Now come down from the dream world and look at your life again. Think hard and see whether you can translate this dream into reality. The more you think about it the more you will realize that it is absolutely necessary for you to be with your husband away from all distractions, phone calls and kids yelling for your attention. You owe this to yourself and to your partner who has stood by you through this tedious routine.

You’ll probably find that it takes very little effort to fire up your relationship again. Don’t think that you have to conform to the scenario we’ve given you, use it as a template to creating the perfect getaway for you. We don’t want to let life get in the way because it will only get busier and our romance can get put on hold while our responsibilities take precedence. Keep the romance at the forefront.

If you can’t get away for the entire weekend, make adjustments to go out for a few hours with your husband. Surely, that is manageable. The idea is to be together and relive the magical moments that are the basis of your union in the first place.

Now is the time to rekindle the romance.

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When it comes to finding your partner’s G Spot is that you do not rush it. In fact the more relaxed your partner is with you then the chances of actually finding what you are looking for is greatly increased and the more they will respond to you. The best way of how to find G Spot of the woman you love to help increase her sexual pleasure is to create an atmosphere that they find warm, loving and intimate.

Through this article we offer you a few tips which should help when it comes to creating the right kind of atmosphere that both of you will find increases the sexual pleasure you both feel during lovemaking. Plus as you will soon find when it comes to finding their G Spot to further increase their sexual experience will also provide you with a whole new array of sexual experiences and pleasures as well.

Step 1 – Before you actually move on to the lovemaking it is important that both you and your partner are in the right frame of mind. Ideally, it is best if you just spend sometime together relaxing. Just sitting on the sofa listening to your favorite group or music with a glass of wine is an ideal start.

Step 2 – Then after a little while excuse yourself from the room and head to bathroom where you can run them a warm luxurious bath, which should hopefully help them to relax even further. A great way of providing a relaxed and luxurious atmosphere in the bathroom is to light a few strategically placed candles and turn all other lights out.

Step 3 – After she has had sufficient time to relax in the bath you can now then move on to the next stage of your lovemaking. Have the bedroom already prepared again to further enhance the effect of creating a loving and intimate space in this room in your home turn out the lights. Then light a few candles, which can be strategically placed, around the room.

Step 4 – When your partner comes into the room and get her to lay down in the space, you have created where you wish to make love to her. An ideal way of getting her to further relax and create a more intimate connection between the two of you is to give her a massage. A massage will often not only help them to feel more relaxed but also they will become far more responsive to your touch as well. However it is important at this stage you do not go anywhere near her vagina or clitoris.

Step 5 – When you are carrying out the massage, it is important that you use only long sensual strokes to their body. Plus to further enhance the sexual pleasure they are feeling start to kiss them lightly or nibble or the ears or nipples as you do so. But what is important is that you do not rush this stage of your lovemaking.

Once your partner is feeling more relaxed then you can begin to entice her further and start to increase the sexual pleasure she is feeling. However before you finding G Spot you need to spend some more time stimulating her further including starting to stimulate her clitoris, but at this stage you should not yet actually be considering going inside her yet. Just take things slowly and only when you feel she is ready or when she tells you, she is ready should you then start to use techniques on how to find G Spot.

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According to the Office for National Statistics, by 2021, 35% of UK households will consist of just one person. The number of single-parent families is also rising, as is the number of people going through more than one divorce. If you are single and beginning to despair of ever meeting the right person, you are not alone in this.

Despite the gloomy picture painted by the figures, however, many couples do have happy marriages that last a lifetime. If this is what you want, you can have it too. The key is to approach a relationship in the right way. Just because your previous relationships have ended sadly or badly, it doesn’t mean the next one will. If you learn from the mistakes you’ve made, it won’t happen again.

The first step is to love yourself. It may sound corny but you can’t expect someone to love you unless and until you love yourself. If you are hoping a partner will give you strength and confidence, you are setting yourself up for failure. Your negativity and your neediness may deter potentially good partners, while attracting the sort who will just make it worse. If you present yourself to the world as worthless, the world is likely to believe you.

Moreover, needing a partner in order to feel “whole” puts a heavy strain on your relationship. It is completely normal to feel like this, so don’t go thinking there is something wrong with you. You are simply weighed down by unresolved issues from your past (as is practically everyone else on earth). The point is that your partner is not the best person to help you to resolve these issues – not without guidance, anyway. The most useful thing you can do for yourself is to discuss your situation with a counsellor or psychotherapist.

Particularly if you can see a pattern to the bad relationships you have had, it will be of immense benefit to you to talk to a therapist. If you feel getting some therapy would be shaming, be assured that it’s not. If your emotional anguish were a physical pain, you would get it checked out by a doctor, wouldn’t you? Why not heal yourself on the inside too? A therapist will help you to gain both self-esteem and insight into your relationship pattern.

Once you have come to realise what a capable, lovable person you really are, the next step is to make sure your life reflects this. Are you happy with the house/flat and location where you live? Is your job challenging and satisfying? Have you got supportive friends and interesting hobbies? If your life is not as you would like it to be, don’t put up with it, change it! You might be surprised what you can achieve if you take courage and just do it. Having a stimulating, fulfilling life of your own means that you won’t be looking to your partner to provide excitement and fun.

Right, so now you’re feeling positive and confident and you’re ready to meet someone on an equal basis. Where to find him or her? There are many ways to seek out a partner: join a dating agency, go to singles events, ask your friends to introduce you to suitable candidates

The principal benefit of joining a dating agency is fast access to a large pool of available people within a few miles of you. The big disadvantage to this – and to every other manufactured connection – is the pressure it puts on everybody to be what someone else wants.

Although, of course, it is possible to find lasting love by contrived means, the best way to meet the person who will become your life partner is by chance. Do make sure you are always meeting new people but don’t assess them as potential partners. Concentrate on building your own life; fulfil yourself through your work, your hobbies and your friends; challenge yourself and enjoy your achievements.

Finally, it is a myth that we each have one “soul mate” out there. Actually, there are many different people who could be an excellent partner for you. Whoever it is doesn’t have to be perfect – and neither do you. If you are both committed to the relationship, you can make it work. So, now, stop worrying and start living. The right person will find you more easily if you stop looking.

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